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		<title>Living in the Question Mark:  How to Pull-Out of the &#8220;He&#8217;s Out or He&#8217;s In&#8221; Mentality</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Aug 2010 22:58:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I like to use imagery to help clients (and myself) understand what life is like when lived "in the question mark."  Imagine then, if you will, the two extreme options.  For example, the man I am dating is "in"  -- meaning he is "the one," or he is "out," meaning I must break up with him immediately.  If I choose to live in the "question mark," however, I am standing smack dab in the middle of both these extreme options.

What, though, does it feel like to BE, to LIVE  life in the question mark?  Here's how to experience those feelings so that you can begin to go there effortlessly when you feel yourself heading down the path of "either/or"  black and white thinking]]></description>
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		<title>The Ash from 4th of July Fallout:  Why Is it Hard to be Single on National Holidays?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jul 2010 02:17:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was thinking about holidays yesterday, and how the men I dated  in the past influenced my experience of Fourth of July.  There was the "Big Breakup" guy who told me, point blank, on July 4th, that he wanted to cancel plans because he "wanted to hang with his friends, drink some beers, play pool and chill.  He then said that I should 'get it,' intimating my disappointment was inappropriate.  He also told me I was being"needy" when I retorted to his change of plans, claiming, "Most guys wanna spend time with their girlfriends on the Fourth of July."  ]]></description>
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		<title>Why Is Everyone Being So Mean to Valentine&#8217;s Day?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:55:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If Valentine's Day were a person I would be defending her, taking her to lunch to help "pump" her up, and unabashedly wondering why people are avoiding her at all costs.  I mean, geez, she's just a pink and red Hallmark holiday moment. She doesn't smell.  Dress weird, or have bad breath.
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		<title>Q and A Monday!  Four Steps to Change Your Life When It Seems Impossible</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:02:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hey Dignity Daters!  I&#8217;m preparing for my workshop tomorrow night in Los Angeles in which I&#8217;m collaborating Dr. Theo Kousouli, a chiropractic healer.  We are going to dig deep into one of the most frequently asked questions here at Dating With Dignity &#8212; a question which I have received a few times from [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Getting Back to the Life I Love &#8211; Self Care Gone Wild!</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jan 2010 21:56:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I also want to reflect on my vacation, and the state of mind I had which enabled ideas to flow freely, love to grow and compassion to deepen. In looking more carefully at this, I realized I had a certain routine while on vacation which enabled me to access deeper parts of myself; A routine in which I took care of myself.  Ahh -- back to the concept of self care, -- and an expansion of the Self-Care Bootcamp I began in the end of 2009. So, what did I do in Maui?
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		<title>How the Bad Stuff in 2009 Can Help Define a Positive Journey Ahead</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/how-the-bad-stuff-in-2009-can-help-define-a-positive-journey-ahead/</link>
		<comments>http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/how-the-bad-stuff-in-2009-can-help-define-a-positive-journey-ahead/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Dec 2009 20:54:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ugh.  I'm supposed to be better than this.  How could I have done such a thoughtless thing?  And then I began to think further.  What other mistakes have I made this year?  And more importantly, how can I change these behaviors and begin to let those mistakes take me to a higher place of being in 2010?  In fact, I realize, these mistakes are opportunities to grow, become a better person.  I can become more compassionate.  Learn to stop ignoring the small voice.  I can change, shift, transform, and learn.

I have been keeping a journal while I've been here containing thoughts and ideas for 2010.  Things I want to do.  Places I want to go, and goals I would like to achieve.  And as a result, I have decided to become a better at communicating with family.  I am going to send more notes.  I am going to forgive myself for mistakes made, and put writing condolence and thank you notes higher on "my list" to do list.  I am going to send birthday greetings, and send more gifts.  I am going to practice what I teach -- make my words and actions match.   What is on your list?  ]]></description>
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		<title>Guest Blog:  The Truth About Bad Boys</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/guest-blog-the-truth-about-bad-boys/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Dec 2009 21:13:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Understanding the MANimal Species. What Kind of Man Are You Dating?]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Now, on to the guest blog, written by David Shade.  While it has nothing to do with Christmas, per se, it does for me.  It was on Christmas Eve, six years ago, that I was madly in love with the consummate bad boy.  He was all these things.  Sometimes he was worse.  Sometimes he was better.  I tell people, "he was the best, worst thing that ever happened to me" because the pain I suffered as a result of this relationship was debilitating.  The good news is that it took me to the depths of myself, forcing me to pick myself up, transform my thinking, and take back control of my life.

My wish is for you to take control of your life in 2010.  I'm here to support you on the journey.  In the meantime, I'm going to smile, post this blog, breathe deeply, and do what is necessary to enjoy the warm Maui breeze --

Now, on to Bad Boys.  I'm dedicating this blog to mine.

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		<title>Q and A Monday:  No chemistry on Date #1, Should I See Him Again?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Dec 2009 07:02:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Men and women like you are spending money, time and energy to meet someone with whom they want to fall in love.  What's more, it means that because there are so many people actively dating, it is easy to rule someone out within 30 seconds of meeting them.  "Ick," you think.  "She's out.  Who's next?"  Clients tell me there was "no chemistry," admitting that after those first thirty seconds they literally stopped engaging with the person. Stopped listening carefully, never looked the person across the table in the eye, and immediately discounted them as someone they wanted to get to know.
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		<title>How to make a clean break?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:44:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems that letting go of a relationship, especially when the person meets 75% -80% of your needs, is a challenge.  Men and women constantly ask me what is the "right" way to break up?  Should they have "break-up" sex, can they be just  "friends," should they talk on the phone regularly?  Or, should they just sever ties  --  make a clean break?  ]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;I am Grateful for&#8221; &#8212; Totally Overused on Thanksgiving?</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Nov 2009 00:26:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ I woke up this morning totally missing my mom, who died 14 months ago after a heroic battle with lung cancer.  I had a dream last night in which she turned up, "not dead," and we were driving around Arizona (the place  my parents lived for the past 15 years) looking for a place to stay.  In the dream I kept suggesting to go to her friends' homes, but she insisted they had adjusted to her being gone so we should not "freak them out" by turning up.  Weird, right?  Thing is, I miss my mom.  Sometimes more, sometimes less.  But the truth is that today while I was baking yams I wished I had spent more time cooking with her, instead of going for the long run, reading in my bedroom, or watching football with the gang.  ]]></description>
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