Guest Blog: The Truth About Bad Boys
It’s Christmas Eve Day, and quite frankly while I am really feeling blessed and blissed, I am also frustrated! I haven’t seen my kids in more than one week (they are with their dad) and for someone who is a recovering control freak, I hate feeling so “out of control.” This is the time where I remember to take my own advice, and step out of this victim, ick feeling and begin to feel grateful for the incredible relationship I typically have with my kids’ father, the friends who love me here in Maui and at home, and the fact that my boyfriend is supportive of me despite my complaining (even though these days he is slightly obsessed with the 40 foot waves that are expected on the North Shore of Maui on Christmas Day!) Knowing all this, he is not responsible for “getting me out of this mood,” nor is the sunshine, the gym or the tray of chocolates on the dining room table. I get to be responsible for me, for transforming this day into one of calm, peace and gratitude. I am going to forgive myself for agreeing to this vacation schedule with my ex-husband without really looking closely at the dates, jump into the day, and make it incredible!
Now, on to the guest blog, written by David Shade. While it has nothing to do with Christmas, per se, it does for me. It was on Christmas Eve, six years ago, that I was madly in love with the consummate bad boy. He was all these things. Sometimes he was worse. Sometimes he was better. I tell people, “he was the best, worst thing that ever happened to me” because the pain I suffered as a result of this relationship was debilitating. The good news is that it took me to the depths of myself, forcing me to pick myself up, transform my thinking, and take back control of my life.
My wish is for you to take control of your life in 2010. I’m here to support you on the journey. In the meantime, I’m going to smile, post this blog, breathe deeply, and do what is necessary to enjoy the warm Maui breeze
Happy Wednesday Dignity Daters! I am blessed to be enjoying vacation with my boyfriend, The Brit, my dad and his fiance. and my three daughters in Maui for the next several weeks. That said, in an effort to be present with my family, I am excited to let you know that an incredible community of nationally recognized experts, Dating With Dignity fans, and Man Panelists will intermittently be contributing guest blogs while I am on vacation. To kick things off, I would like to introduce you now to to the first of these blogs written by David Shade, nationally recognized sex and relationship expert. David is the author of the acclaimed book, “Select Women Wisely,” and is currently writing “Select Men Wisely,” for which I am authoring one chapter.
