Dating With Dignity

There are so many moments in our lives when we feel stuck. We see how we want to be, yet recognize that the negative thoughts and feelings we have are the result of certain triggers, such as situations or people, that make us feel powerless, reconnect us to the pain we are trying to leave behind, or create icky feelings of frustration. What’s most difficult is that it can happen when we least expect it, even during those moments when we are feeling super groovy.

When you are triggered, however, it doesn’t mean you have to stay stuck in this icky feeling. There are techniques you can use to become aware of your reactions and then take responsibility for changing your thoughts, feelings, and actions to catapult yourself to a new level of awareness, happiness, and, ultimately, love of self and others.

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When he seems to be perfect “on paper,” it is very difficult to know how long you should wait for him to make a long-term commitment. There are no hard and fast rules about how much time is enough for a man to decide whether or not he wants to commit to you. Different types of men and relationships will require different approaches. Here are several different types of men, along with ideas about how to approach each to determine whether or not there is long-term potential.

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There is no such thing as “stuck.” As you may know, at Dating With Dignity I often talk about how we get trapped by language. Here’s the good news. Try this on for size:

In truth, “stuck” is the exact, right space for me to be in, because there are lessons to learned RIGHT HERE, right NOW.

Holy wow! Imagine my surprise when I discovered this concept a few years ago when pondering why I was unsatisfied, afraid, and confused regarding the status of my relationship with Max, a teacher I had been dating for three months from San Francisco. Freed from thinking I was like a “truck stuck in the muck,” I invited “stuck” to really seep into my consciousness. I’m not stuck, I decided. In fact, this is an opportunity to grow. This is a new place for me. If I choose to expand; to move towards the “stuck,” I will ultimately move closer to what I truly want.

Then, I begin to literally envision myself magnetizing new, unknown information — drawing the lessons I needed to learn from this relationship towards myself. I asked the “still quiet voice” inside for guidance.

“Ok me,” I asked in a moment of morning reflection, grabbing the notebook from the nightstand to write down the answers. ”What lessons could I learn from this experience, these feelings?” I asked myself. “I’m here,” I went on, ”completely open to whatever you have for me. I am willing to receive guidance today.”

And then, I waited, hoping that when I stopped asking others, I would begin to hear the answers I had finally decided to ask myself.

Here’s what I discovered I needed to learn:

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