Dating With Dignity

I’ve got a great date story to share from a while ago that is pertinent to many of the topics that come up today. So, I met this great gal on a project I was working on. There wasn’t enough time to get her number so we connected over Facebook. We tossed several FB messages back and forth and then there was an exchange of numbers. Later that week she dropped me a text that said, “Want to grab a drink tonight?” I was free, texted “Sure!” and that date was set. I was near her neck of the woods and admitted that I was a bit out of my element. Luckily she said she knew a groovy place for us to meet.

I get there a little early, grab a cocktail and within minutes she is joining me at the bar. The conversation is exciting and she is hitting upon some invigorating topics. She lights up the room as she shares her take on all things vocational, spiritual and political. She is pretty darn smart, well grounded and opinionated. I found myself sitting back and watching her show most of the night, but it was an exciting show, and it’s always fun to see someone getting carried away in passion and spark. As the conversation goes deeper, so do the drinks, and before I know it she is ordering the 4th round. Then she suggests we do a shot on the next one! At first I was a bit surprised, but then I found it sexy. This gal is asking me to man up and keep up with her, so my male machismo kicks in and I throw back a double of Jameson.

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By Orna & Matthew Walters

The holidays can be a difficult time to be single and dating. There is a lot of pressure to find someone who can share all of those holiday events with, culminating with the ultimate pressure filled event, New Year’s Eve. It’s enough to drive you into the arms of the nearest available man. This is a strategy that results in high expectations and crushing disappointment.

We want to offer a different path this holiday season, one that could very well make sure you never spend another holiday lonely and alone. And to accomplish this, you need to change the direction of your focus – away from finding the right man, right now, and towards becoming the right woman, always.

The path to accomplish this feat requires that you stop looking for someone to complete you and start becoming the best woman you can be. This requires you to take some loving actions with yourself.

The first step is to release yourself from finding him now. Relax, enjoy the holidays with friends and family, and ignore all those questions about why you are still single. The winter is the perfect time to reflect and introspect. Take this time to look inward and develop a positive self-love practice.

Here are a few suggestions:

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There are so many moments in our lives when we feel stuck. We see how we want to be, yet recognize that the negative thoughts and feelings we have are the result of certain triggers, such as situations or people, that make us feel powerless, reconnect us to the pain we are trying to leave behind, or create icky feelings of frustration. What’s most difficult is that it can happen when we least expect it, even during those moments when we are feeling super groovy.

When you are triggered, however, it doesn’t mean you have to stay stuck in this icky feeling. There are techniques you can use to become aware of your reactions and then take responsibility for changing your thoughts, feelings, and actions to catapult yourself to a new level of awareness, happiness, and, ultimately, love of self and others.

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