This one is kind of my pet peeve… And I hear it from women ALL the time… They say, “Marni, I just don’t get it…” “I’m amazing… “I’m beautiful, I’m smart, I’ve got it all together and I have a great life… “WTF…Am I being too picky?” If this is you, don’t sweat it. Some […]Read more »
We hear it all the time — men are attracted to you when you are in your feminine energy! But what does that really mean? Is there a standard definition… is there a specific look that makes men sit up and go… “That’s it!” Can you be feminine in your own way? Is it long […]Read more »
In using the D-Factor, Date-Ability Assessment, I am able to discover that this conscious self-perception often does not match the true beliefs that lie in her subconscious. This knowledge, coupled with watching someone in action, can be an amazing way to help someone tweak and polish their vibe so that they can begin to attract not who they GET, but the men they WANT.Read more »
Expert coach Marni Battista teaches you how to handle the fallout of setting boundaries, and how to remain committed to the boundaries you set when your strength and willpower are tested.Read more »
The Cry Baby is a man who may blame himself for what is not right in his life and often battles feelings of guilt. He may truly love you, but is unable to cope, manage or create win-win relationships. Instead of communicating his fears or changing his behaviors, he will often blame you, and then feel guilty that he can’t give you what you need. He often will avoid confrontation, take everything personally, and often will feel as if he is being persecuted for his and other’s mistakes. He will typically keep his feelings and opinions to himself, except for when he is blaming you. In addition, the Cry Baby can quickly fall into co-dependent relationships yet always feels like he is “alone,” and that nobody understands his plight. The Cry Baby will often sabotage relationships, feeling he is truly not deserving or capable of having one.Read more »
The good news is that The MANimals are also wearing masks! And, just like your mask is flashing thoughts, beliefs, and feelings, their masks are flashing too. Wouldn’t it be fabulous if you had special 3-D MANimal glasses that enabled you to SEE exactly what each MANimal is thinking? What he truly believes? His fears? His hangups? And why his actions are merely reflections of these deep, unconscious thoughts?
Now, for the first time, I am revealing the “Thoughts, Feelings and Beliefs” (TFB) of each MANimal. Today, we will begin with a close look at “The Hunter.”
When the inner voice is telling us to make a change, do something differently, let go of a relationship that isn’t working, or stop hiding behind the comfort and safety of the familiar, we must look at why we are consistently taking the path of least resistance. We become so used to doing things one way, that we forget there are other options. Here are a few questions to gauge if you are ready to begin shifting your behaviors and patterns to get better, different results:Read more »
Here is the scoop on this week’s Question at Dating With Dignity: How do I establish boundaries and express my needs without causing my guy to “run off,” or think I am too high maintenance?
Ok, the truth is this: Time isn’t “running out,” but I invite you to act like it is, because often we only act when we think there is an immediate consequence.
The consequence is this: The longer you play it “cool,” the longer you are allowing yourself to spend time dating men who aren’t looking for what you want — a relationship.
There are so many moments in our lives when we feel stuck. We see how we “want” to be, yet recognize that the negative thoughts and feelings we have are the result of certain triggers, (e.g, situations or people) that make us feel powerless, reconnect us to the pain we are trying to leave behind, or create ick feelings of frustration. What’s most difficult is that it can happen when we least expect it, even those moments when we are feeling super groovy.
When you are triggered, however, it doesn’t mean you have to stay “stuck” in this ick feeling. There are techniques you can use to become aware of your “re-actions” and then help you become responsible for your changing your thoughts, feelings and actions so that you can literally catapult yourself to a new level of awareness, happiness, and ultimately love of self and others. Here’s an example of how negative victim or conflict thinking can manifest inside your head via the “word” of the inner critical voice I often refer to as the “dark side” voice:Read more »