I spent the last few days doing what I do quite well; coaching men and women through a break up. Perhaps Sunday night was simply the culmination of an unknown cosmic universal force, resulting in “Break Up Weekend;” a time in which the stars and moon aligned to create new space in the lives of […]Read more »
I went on no less than 100 Internet dates between January 2004 and February, 2009. I met my first post-divorce boyfriend on Craig’s List, experimented with Jdate, Match.com, Nerve.com, Plentyoffish.com., Elitemeeting.com, and more. I went on coffee dates, dinner dates, drink dates, hiking dates and dates that lasted less than 15 minutes. I even traveled to New York city to meet someone who, for the 10 day prior to our face-to-face meeting, I truly thought was my soul mate.
He wasn’t.Read more »
The Tough Girl also fears that if she puts her heart into the dating realm it will be most assuredly be broken. And as someone who has experienced heart break before, she is reticent to risk losing the new life she has built at the expense of a potential partner. In her core, she believes she will be hurt and that her tough exterior is the key to keeping her safe.Read more »
we discussed how Limiting Beliefs, which are things that you accept about life, yourself, or the world, and how it drives what kind of men and women you meet. Here are some examples of common Limiting Beliefs: “Men over 40 only want to date younger women.” Or, “All men/women in LA are superficial.” Or, “If I get into a relationship I will have to lose my independence.” If you believe these thoughts to be true, it is most likely that this is what you will create in your life.Read more »
It was difficult to leave him the following night. We had dinner in Laguna with friends, sneaking in kisses between the banter. I leaned into him, walking back to the car after dinner, planting bittersweet kisses on his neck. We kissed for nearly an hour in the car outside my house, my heart ricocheting off my ribcage as I wrestled with alternate feelings of elation then sadness before forcing myself to walk inside, alone.Read more »
When it comes to dating, women don’t want to waste time investing in a man who most likely isn’t looking for a long-term relationship. However, most often the tell-tale signs are camouflaged with good looks, being taken to a nice dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even consistently following thru on the basics such as calling when he says he will call, or arriving on time for dates. He will pick you up. He is polite, and respectful. These men, however, fall into the category of the MANimal Species known as: Quality Casual.Read more »
“Hah,” you say, furrowing your brow as you remember your last Internet date with the guy who looked more like George Jetson rather than George Clooney. This search for love is not fun, you argue. It’s disappointing. Frustrating.
Here’s the Dating With Dignity news flash this Labor Day, 2009: Dating could, in fact, be fun. Let me suggest two strategies to test this week as you launch into Fall.Read more »
I have worked with many clients whose quest for love and relationship has become one of the most important parts of their lives. In fact, there are many who seem to build their social plans around one singular goal: meeting members of the opposite sex. If you are not on a Dating Fast these days, (see yesterday’s blog for details) my invitation to you this weekend is to modify the approach you take to making plans. Instead of making the focus on where you could go to “meet men,” try to listen to your heart’s desire.Read more »
One of the first steps in the Dating With Dignity process to MANifest love is what I call the The Dating Fast, a pre-determined period of time which requires that one completely stop all forms of activity directly involved with the pursuit of relationship. Some women call it “space,” some a “cleanse,” while others just call it horrid. They simply don’t want to do it.Read more »
Upon returning home that evening, Murse crawled into bed, and lay on his stomach. He mumbled.
“Tired. Yoga…killed me.”
I had ridden the Murse wave til it’s end. No more sex with Murse. Murse knew, like me, that he needed to shut down. Protect himself. Protect me.
As I watched him doze off, I realized it was time to put on the brakes. Put away the fantasy that Lost Girls’ will hold on to forever. I am no longer Lost, however. I know when it was time to say goodbye to Murse, say yes to friends.Read more »