First off, most men and women will say that they want a partner who is honest. In fact, when my clients are creating lists of values they hold as important for themselves and others, honesty ranks in the top five of “must-have’s.” In digging deeper, we typically discuss what honesty looks like to them. Yes, while it seems obvious that honesty is not up for discussion or debate, there are certain situations we discuss in which it might not be necessary or appropriate to tell the absolute truth. How many lovers have you had in the past? When it comes to kiss and tell, discussing your past is not necessary.Read more »
I finally watched an episode of “Cougar Town” last night. Courtney Cox looked, “good for 40 plus,” though oddly plasticized. I must admit I felt quite relieved when my boyfriend, Jem, voiced his disgust at her botox and collagen, telling me he will love me the same when there are less people in the world who tell me I also “look good for 40 plus.” Which thus brings me to a conversation I had with my friend while walking Monday in which we discussed the issue of age, being a cougar, and why it’s OK to be a cougar unless addressed as “cougar” by someone in his twenties! Here’s my point: Age doesn’t matter, unless it does.Read more »
I have a client, let’s call her Jane, who met a man online a few weeks ago. He had been out of the country since they first “met” online so she had been communicating with him via text and email. During the course of these emails she began to connect with him (let’s call him Brad) because they share similar interests and appear to have the same values. As can be expected, Jane began to really “fall” for Brad, and I thus encouraged her to pull back and wait until he returned to Los Angeles to continue communicating with Brad at length. She didn’t want to engage in a pattern she has which is to begin to see a man as “the one,” before he has even come close to being a candidate for that title.Read more »
Dating guys who are often late, or cancel last minute? The Dignity Dating coach Marni Battista and Man Panelist, Christian Anderson discuss specific expectations you should have regarding timliness, as well as how to cut him off if he’s repeatedly late!Read more »
Should you ignore your ex on Facebook? As is the case with all exes, you must first determine whether or not both parties no longer have feelings for one another. Perhaps you are over John, but if John has not let go of the possibility that one day you will return his undying love, it is best that John not be your Facebook friend. If he is an avid Facebook fan, it will not help is ability to move on when he sees the mobile upload you posted from the date enjoyed at the farmer’s market with your latest boyfriend.Read more »
When it comes to finding love, there is no worse enemy then the romance movie, reality television, and the notion that Prince Charming exists. As little girls we are raised to believe in certain notions of romance, and thus spend the rest of our tweens, teens and adulthood trying to fit our experiences with men into the fantasy relationships on which we feed daily. Who amongst us hasn’t fantasized that maybe we WERE meant to fall in love with our best male friend? Who hasn’t hoped this time, in fact, we will turn out to be like “Gigi,” the character from, “He’s Just Not That Into You,” who discovers that even though she is exceptionally annoying AND inappropriate, the cute guy falls head over heels in love with her. Or, perhaps, maybe you’re just pissed your boyfriend didn’t run down the street in his boxers when you slammed the door, storming out of his apartment pissed as hell.Read more »
Find out what it takes to get the 2nd date by just following these easy-to-understand tips from relationship Coach, Marni Battista, and Man Panelist, Christian Anderson of Dating With Dignity.Read more »
You are in a relationship with “The Hunter” if the dating process like this:
1. The Hunter mostly asks you out via text, email or IM. He rarely calls “just to chat.”
2. He rarely invites you on a date in advance. Most often, dates do not occur on weekends. Late night calls on weekends are frequent.
3. He will spend time with you, after he spends time with friends. As a result, he may not see you before 10 pm.
4. Dates frequently consist of “hanging out,” watching movies etc. Ultimately, for obvious reasons, the Hunter wants you to come to his apartment rather than go out.