Podcast: How Women Can Take Back Control in the Dating Game
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Ladies, you are going to love the wisdom my BF shares today!
And, you will sooo relate to her story of how she had to be smacked by the universe many times to understand control is an illusion.
If you’ve ever asked yourself… “WTF?! I thought I was doing everything right?”
Yet every step you take with men seems to be the wrong one…
Like a casual meeting you thought could turn into something, disappears into thin air…
Or an awesome first or second date with chemistry and connection, never calls or texts again…
It even feels like your texts with men are landing with a resounding ‘THUD’…
Then you definitely need to check out this episode!
Christine shares her story of how she was desperately insecure as a kid because she was bullied and teased. She was diagnosed with depression when she was just 11 and was put on antidepressants. She thought something was wrong with her, she had health problems and IBS. To compensate, she became an extreme overachiever with compensatory strategies. It made her successful on the outside but on the inside, she was a mess.
She went out to Hollywood to live the dream and become an agent. At 25 she achieved her goal but she had an autoimmune condition and was still on antidepressants. She left her job and soon became 10’s of thousands of dollars in debt. Everything she wanted was ripped away from her. She was even dumped by her fiance 6 months before her wedding.
All of this inspired her to write 2 books and she realized any disappointment is a doorway to transformation. She was able to see that what happens to us in our present day is offering us an opportunity to go back and clean up things from our past. The personal growth industry promises a quick fix but there is no quick fix, no one talks about emotions. Christine decided she wanted to create a holistic plan.
Balancing Male and Female Energy [11:53]
People always say you need to be more in your feminine energy. Christine is an entrepreneur so she had to learn how to shift her energy into her dating life. Between working and a date, she takes an hour to move her energy from masculine to feminine. Many women may get tripped up when they believe that feminine energy is more passive but this generation of men doesn’t know how to deal with the empowered feminine. It’s a new thing.
A Lot of Maybe’s and Sometimes [14:24]
Christine shares an example of when a guy she was texting with needed a little encouragement. She says it’s about honest communication, speaking your truth. She made it easy for him and he accepted the date.
Check your energy before you call a guy. It’s not your words it’s the energy it rides on.
Christine has become aware of her triggers and how they disempower her in dating. She has learned to recognize when she is protecting herself from rejection.
If you want a mature partner who can communicate you have to be a mature partner who can communicate. Game playing or expectations.