If you read our Dating with Dignity blog post “How to Tell if a Man Is Interested in You,” you may be aware of the various ways a man can show his interest. And if you’re following along, you will know that a man’s body language says it all when it comes to giving you the “yes” signal you’re looking for.
Yep, ladies, it’s that simple when you use use our “Four Signs to ‘He’s Into Me’: Body Language Edition.” Check it out:
Eye contact Surprisingly, sheepish, almost awkward eye contact often indicates he’s into you! If you catch him looking at you when you aren’t looking his way, and he quickly looks away when you look at him, he’s probably interested!
When you’re able to get close to his face, notice if his pupils are dilated as well, which is what happens when we look at someone we like! Direct eye contact is also an indicator that he likes you. Ultra confident guys will make serious eye contact; and when these men have you as a target, it will be obvious he wants to take your relationship to the next level!
As a dignity dater, you can also use this tip to determine if his eye contact is lusty or if he wants to get to really know you. A blatantly flirty look means he probably wants to get in your pants, while a deep, concentrated look (as if he’s really listening to you) means he wants to get in your brain!
When in conversation, a guy who likes you will engage in active listening. He’ll lean in toward you while you’re speaking. He’ll make eye contact while you’re talking (see above), and he’ll also physically turn his body toward you. This is body language flirting at its finest.
In addition, a man who really wants to get to know you won’t lean away from you or look disinterested. (If you’re on a date with that guy, hope he doesn’t call you again.) Sometimes a guy who is interested in you will glance away occasionally. Don’t automatically assume he’s not interested; he’s probably just refocusing his attention.
He doesn’t touch his phone
Most of us are keyed in to respond to things like phone calls or text messages (or emails, or tweets, or Instagrams, or any other slew of technological alerts one gets from her phone). Additionally, it’s become commonplace for some folks to place their phone on the table. (Bad date etiquette!) But if your guy has turned off his phone, turned off the ringer, or left it in his pocket and hasn’t glanced at it once all night, this is a good sign he is into YOU. You have captured his attention. Congratulations!
His body position
A man who’s squaring his shoulders toward you is interested in getting to know you. Is his foot pointed at you as well? Great. His legs will be spread slightly, and he’ll definitely be facing you.
His direct body positioning toward you will also be helpful for him when he wants to do one of the old “accidentally-on-purpose” brushes of your elbow or arm. (This is certainly more on purpose than by accident.) Notice if he fixes his hair or adjusts his shirt or belt (subconsciously trying to draw your attention to his groin area), as these are signs he likes you.
Find out more about body language from my good friend, Kim Seltzer on the EliteSingles digital dating bootcamp.