Let’s say you meet a man and he’s got it all going on…
He’s handsome, has a job, he’s smart and he knows how to treat you…
He’s a “looks good on paper” guy.
But how do you know if he’s a Quality Casual Guy and not looking for a relationship…
Or he really is boyfriend, or even husband material and he just wants to take it slow?
Watch this Dating Den with me and hunky Chris Gillis for answers to all those questions and more!
I agree with Mary. Here are your two types of “fresh out of relationship or marriage men.” You have your men who just cannot be alone…and don’t want to have to search for sex at the bars or online or whatever…so they get with that next woman ASAP and settle down with her whether right or wrong. They aren’t even divorced yet, they are separated (this was Bobbi Palmer’s man whether she wants to admit it or not!He was divorced twice already…and then right away looking to get with another) but they just cannot be alone. Then there are the ones who get out of a marriage and want to bed EVERY woman they come across because they felt so deprived in the marriage (perhaps there was no sex going on for the past few months or years!) and they probably won’t be ready to settle down for years..and don’t think you can change them. You can’t. That’s where this guy in the video is. Regardless of him wanting to “skirt” the question, so as not to sound like an ass…this is where he is now. Some day his green light will come on but not before he has passed over (but perhaps bedded, because they always want that with you) many great women who would have LOVED to have gotten to know this man, but when his green light comes on, he will go for the woman he is casually dating…or the one who walks in at the moment he decides to go with the green. RARELY to never will he remember that great past woman who really wanted to love him like no other but he just couldn’t do it at the time. I don’t know how many times I have experienced this and yes, it is heartbreaking. So which one is better? The first one I spoke of or the latter? Neither. They’re both screwed up (one…scared who did not do the work to be good in a next relationship…and the other who just wants to get laid again and again) and unleashed on us poor single women. Rarely do we find the man who has done the work or is “ready.” Some woman will at some point,but what I’ve noticed is it always seems to be the woman saying, “I’m never getting married again!” LOL! They seem to be the lucky ones, while all of us who would love to be married are still here…single! But I’m too honest to go around claiming I don’t need a man and will never want to be married and am okay being alone for the rest of my life. Because I’m not okay with it.
Gosh….the whole interview felt awkward! Even in trying to pull information from Chris for a pre-arranged video he was constantly hedging and avoiding. Perhaps we all need to review this video…because, in life, business and love…if someone cannot freely speak their mind, they are sending you messages in the avoidance!!
I call his type “Transition Man”. Nothing wrong with him, (of course), but for a gal who’s looking for something ultimately permanent, these guys will frustrate and probably eventually hurt that gal. The more classic example is the guy fresh off his divorce who’s eager for quality female interaction again, but is not in a place to settle down or marry anytime soon. Or if he is, chances are that second marriage won’t last because the romance was really a whirlwind, lust-fueled infatuation that wasn’t allowed enough “getting to know each other for reals” time…. It’s been my experience that a marriage-seeking gal would be best to avoid these types, as they rarely settle with their transition woman. She’s just there to help him get past the last relationship. If you want marriage, avoid Transition Man, or date him at your peril.
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