It seems today that one person in a relationship is the more successful or “smart” party of the two (i.e., predominantly more successful men with less successful women). With as many female entrepreneurs and CEOs as we have now, we hear plenty about the successful woman. But why don’t we hear of more smart and successful COUPLES?
This leads us to ask, what happened to the “power couple”? Today when we hear “power couple,” one popular relationship comes to mind: Beyoncé and Jay Z. They both were first musicians and have branched out to other investments that have made them both extremely successful. We (as women) can get our masters or doctorate, or own our own successful business, and still end up dating someone not as smart or successful! That leaves us wondering: What can we do to ensure that we date someone as smart and successful as ourselves?
1) Never lower your standards. Although it may seem impossible to find a smart, successful, and attractive man who isn’t turned off by your own success, there are plenty of men out there. The phrase “you get what you give” should be a key idea in the search for someone like-minded. If you’re talking to a man who doesn’t keep you intellectually stimulated, you haven’t found the right one to date. There are plenty of men who are successful and not smart, or smart and not quite successful (yet), so this is where your good judgment comes into play.
2) Don’t dumb yourself down for anyone. Some women like to use the ‘”damsel in distress” act to lure a dater into becoming more serious. You’re too smart for that! Women who act like they’re helpless and need a man to complete them will never get an equal position in the relationship. They will always be thought of as the lesser (in success and smarts) by their significant other.
3) Be confident, not cocky. There is no need to brag out your success and smarts. Once someone gets to know you, they will realize it themselves. You don’t want to leave people thinking that you’re pretentious. When talking about something you’re knowledgeable in, offer your insight but don’t force it on the other people (or person) in the conversation.
4) Highlight your strengths. When dating, choose activities that you are or may be good at. I’m not suggesting you hide your weaknesses; I’m telling you to put your best foot forward. With that being said, don’t be afraid to try new things either!
5) Never allow the chivalry to fade. Although you’re as smart and successful as your date, allow (and expect) him to be chivalrous. Even though he thinks of you as an equal, allow him to do things such as pull out your chair, open the car door, or pay for dinner. Just because you are just as successful, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be treated like a queen.
If you trust your intuition, and/or if it seems like the successful man you’re after expects you to dumb yourself down for him, it’s time to move on to someone else. Remember, men will treat you how you allow them to treat you. Keep your expectations of them high and remember that you deserve someone as awesome as you!