Among the many questions running through your mind when faced with the prospect of a first date is the most basic: what will you do? When meeting someone for the first time, romantically or otherwise, it’s a societal standard to meet over food or drinks of some sort; but when selecting a scenario in which to consider someone as a potential mate, you open yourself to a number of other factors to consider.
While there’s no set rule for where to take your date, there are little nuances about each setting to consider as you weigh your options. And so, here is a Dating with Dignity guide to choosing your first date spot:
Great for: Blind Dates
Lunch is a fantastic middle ground between the casual vibe of drinks or coffee and the more serious dinner commitment, and it’s therefore a great setting for connecting with a guy you’ve been set up with by a mutual friend. Daylight keeps it casual, and the rest of the afternoon stretching before you allows you to either escape to other plans if the date goes awry or wile away the rest of the day with your newfound love connection.
Great for: Online dates
Online dating, while wonderful and full of opportunity, also brings along with it safety concerns and the ambiguity of spending time with someone whose only overlap with your life thus far are a few common interests and an exchange of messages. Whether meeting up for cocktails or coffee, committing to casual drinks with someone you met online will suffice for that initial impression. Allowing a flexibility that a meal won’t, drinks give you the chance to get to know them in real life over a fairly brief time and evaluate whether you’d like to move on from there.
Great for: Someone you know
The thought of having to devote an evening’s worth of time and conversation to someone you’ve never met can be overwhelming, so a first dinner date is much better suited for someone you are already acquainted with to some degree. Since you’ve already spent time with this person and have found their surface level personality appealing enough to consider romantic potential, a longer evening spent getting to know the person can produce more valuable and fulfilling results.