Cheating has been around as long as relationships have, but it’s only gotten easier and more frequent with the proliferation of technology that makes it all too easy to keep contraband communication under the radar.
Since no one wants to believe they’re with a cheater, you may be excusing away the signs without even realizing it. But if you’re slightly suspicious the guy you’re involved with might be unfaithful, check out my list of ten Dating with Dignity red flags he’s up to no good (and no good for you).
1. He Experiences Severe Mood Swings
Sudden angry flare-ups, especially at even the slightest insinuation of indiscretion, usually means he has something to hide. Remember that relationships are about working out your issues through a healthy dialogue—a genuine, loving (and innocent) guy wouldn’t throw hurtful words in the face of your concern.
2. He Accuses You of Cheating
If your mate suddenly becomes overwrought with suspicion over your male friends or how you spend your time, don’t fret. He could be realizing that if he’s been getting away with an affair, you’re just as capable.
3. Sex Frequency Fluctuates Drastically
Many think that when your fella is cheating, he’ll avoid sex. This is sometimes the case, but he might actually initiate more out of a need to compensate for his indiscretion or from newfound sexual confidence from his secret rendezvous.
4. He’s Shady about His Phone
Is he suddenly taking his phone with him every time he leaves the room or acting strange when you take a peek at it? Sudden efforts to keep his phone screen hidden from you at all costs could mean he’s afraid you’ll happen upon an incriminating photo or message.
5. He’s Suddenly Changing His Appearance
As women we can relate to the need to update and experiment with our appearance. But when your man starts taking strides to change his wardrobe, hair, or body out of the blue, it’s time to get your antennae up.
6. He Has a History of Lying
White lies are one thing; but if you’ve witnessed him lying smoothly and guilt-free about other morally questionable situations, it’s entirely possible he’s doing the same to you.
7. Someone in His Past Cheated
Whether he was a victim of cheating in a past relationship or grew up with an unfaithful parent, the ripple effect of adultery could have had an unsavory effect on your partner. While some will see the destruction it causes and vow never to engage in it themselves, others will use it as permission to do the same.
8. He’s Cheated Before
Even though you can’t brand a guy who made one small mistake in his past as a lifelong adulterer, one who admittedly strayed from multiple relationships on multiple occasions might be.
9. Your Friends Are Telling You He Is
Pay attention to your friends’ subtle (or not so subtle) remarks about the way your mate interacts with other women. They’re looking out for your best interests and might notice things you don’t.
10. Your Gut Is Telling You He Is
Give yourself some credit. You may dismiss it as jumping to a conclusion on a whim, but that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach is usually right.