Hi Clemence… I REALLY, really feel your pain, and I know this is an incredibly difficult time. We have all been there. Your situation is even tougher because you see him so often. My advice is to stop going to the same dance class. Find another studio or take an earlier or later class. At work, be cordial but keep your distance. You need to separate yourself from him as much as possible while you move on. Once you’re over it the two of you can possibly be friends, but for now you need time.
Even if you didn’t want the breakup, you can still move on. My favorite phrase for this situation is “If not him then something better”. Because the universe won’t take one thing away from you if it doesn’t have something even better in store. So keep your faith, keep your head up, and know that you are closer than you think to your guy. BIG hugs and lots of love, Marni
This is really good advice… but how do you move on if you are NOT the one who wanted to break up?
I did the crying and the pity party and my friend do show me how we are not meant to be with one another… but the truth is, i m hoping he’ll come back…i can’t move on (the fact that we work together and have same dance classes doesn’t help either).