Ivona – Yikes! If a guy gets impatient about sex, explain your boundaries. Let them know when you’ll be ready and what you require to be sexually intimate (e.g., commitment). If they take off after that, onto the next!
that is a very good point about not seeing dating as black and white and seeking ‘the one’.
on the other hand, I’ve recently had guys openly be impatient signalling that it is sex they’re after and I thought: does it have to come down to sex? can’t we date and have fun, enjoy the conversations? then I realized they’re inexperienced in dating, as well. as one of the experts pointed out, the dating scene has changed so much but people don’t get that.
Awww…. thanks Tracy!!!! I just love hearing from you, and what a terrific success story!!! I wish you all of the happiness in the world with you and your love! BIG hugs, Marni
Not yet, but we will consider doing an episode on that in the future! BIG hugs, Marni
Ahhh… that’s a really painful situation, isn’t it? If the relationship stops progressing for a consistent period of time, you need to have a conversation with him about your expectations. The goal of this conversation is to find out where he is without scaring him off or making him feel like you’re pushing him. And remember: this stall may only be momentary, and it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is doomed. The most important thing right now is that you avoid black and white thinking and live in the GRAY!!! BIG hugs, Marni
What happens if after 2 years it appears to be stalling or even going backwards..like he is creating distance and slowing things down?
Is there any episodes which discuss long distance relationships; as in two different countries.
My boyfriend & I evolved super slow. We were in the "casual" hanging out phase for a LONG time. I had recently come out of a bad relationship and it took extra time for us to build trust (not in the cheating sense, in the getting to really know one another). The previous relationship in which I refered to as a "bad" one was the complete opposite, meaning the guy was quick to push for a commitment and was overly expressive with "I love you's"…HUGE RED FLAG that I didn't see waving in my face, because I was caught up in the enfatuation of it all. My current boyfriend is more the SLOW and STEADY type. The good thing is that when he does or says something, I know it's well thought out and he means it, it's not a just an in the moment thing. We took FOREVER to become a real couple (about 2 years). We recently moved in together (almost 3 years later). This is a really long time to wait for a relationship and I'm not suggesting you wait that long. I'm probably the exception, not the rule when it comes to something evolving from Mr. Quality Casual to Boyfriend. I'm going to give a shout out to Marni. Her guidance through Dating with Dignity helped to get me to the relationship part because I took her advice along the way. It's awesome advice and is key to helping you find a GOOD/HEALTHY relationship. I've learned it's better to be patient than to rush into the wrong relationship just for the sake of being with someone.
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I love you guys! You are soooo good, and so cute and even though I have been married for 23 years, I watch every episode of Dating Den!