Talking Like a Woman Is Probably Not What You Think: How to Master the Art of Feminine Communication to Attract an Alpha Male
Women and men both have within them masculine and feminine energies. The degree to which we utilize these energies depends very much on how we were reared and conditioned to behave.
Most men you meet today were reared primarily or exclusively by their mothers and may have underdeveloped masculine energies. These men are often referred to as “soft” or otherwise not seen as “alpha” enough. They may struggle with not having a clear vision for their life, still living with their parents, or having little income.
More subtle expressions of feminine energy in men can include always having to ask your permission, struggling with making decisions, and an inability to express their needs.On the other hand, many women have been reared to adapt masculine energies. From little girls competing with boys on the sports fields and in the classroom, to the corporate woman competing with the men just to survive in that competitive arena, women have thrived on their masculine energy.
In fact, many women receive validation and acknowledgement as a result of the success they achieve from operating in their “masculine.” When a woman is in her masculine, she can comfortably communicate with clarity and is comfortable pointing to an outcome or goal.
If she isn’t careful, though, this will overflow into her personal world and she might say to a man, “Can you hand me a sweater?” This sounds innocent enough, but there is directionality in it.
Therewith she is speaking from her masculine. If she were speaking from her feminine, she would merely exclaim, “Um, I’m cold.” When she speaks from her feminine, she conveys emotion and feeling to become connected to her senses. This allows her to be more in touch with her feelings, in her softness, and swaying smoothly in her being.
Most important, it empowers the man to come up with the solution. He can provide shelter, warmth and protection; fix the problem; and take care of business for the lady without being told what to do. He is simply told yes, no, ouch, mmmmh, hot, cold…. and he, as the man, does what needs to be done for the woman.
Navigating freely between masculine and feminine is imperative for women to attract an Alpha Male so she can create success in all areas of her life!
James Wilson, CPC
- Male Expert Coach at DWD
James Earl Wilson, CPC, is an internationally renowned, award-winning performer and relationship coach. James functions as Male Expert Coach for Dating With Dignity, where he consults successful women and men on their path to find the love they desire and deserve. E-mail James here with questions and comments!