By Dr. Anna Michelle
The holiday season is not quite over till the New Year’s Eve ball drops. Some of you may still be on vacation, visiting with family, or still recovering from Christmas a few days ago. The holidays can put more stress and strain on a relationship than usual. Whether it’s extra commitments, less financial resources, increased family gatherings, or more activities than usual, any one of these reasons can cause tension in a relationship. Not to mention, over indulging in sugary foods, alcohol and eating more than usual intensifies anxiety, and can run the risk of turning your holiday cheer into the holiday blues.
Here are some tips on how to stress-proof your relationship for the holidays…
Tip #1: Be honest about money. You don’t need to go into debt buying things you cannot afford. Holiday gifts are not a contest to see how much you love each other, but are an expression of how much you genuinely care.
Tip #2: Enjoy traditions and the precious rituals you love, like making family recipes or listening to certain holiday music. Share them with your beloved and create new memories together.
Tip #3: Maintain affection as often as possible. Not only does it raise your endorphins, but it also creates intimacy. This includes sex. Sex is a major stress reliever so be flirty and fun this holiday season! Get active and do something entertaining like ice-skating or keep the romance alive while snuggling up next to your honey by a warm, crackling fire.
Tip #4: Try to modify alcohol consumption and excess sugar. It lowers your endorphins, making you grumpy and depressed – not to mention, kills your libido.
Tip #5: Avoid stressful relationship topics like pressure for more commitment or unusual expectations to behave a ‘certain way’ around your family or friends. Insisting your partner affirm his loyalty to you or that she ‘act her age,’ will push them further away, creating distance and resistance. This is not a time to force anything.
Tip #6: Keep negative issues to yourself. There’s no need to air out your frustrations or blame your partner for your stress. It’s easy to lash out at those closest to us. But it’s not fair to bring them down just because you’re down.
Tip #7: Make a gratitude list and share it with each other. Ditch what’s wrong and focus on what’s right about your relationship. What are all the positive traits you love about your mate? This is sure to bring you closer and back in the swing of the holiday spirit.
Nothing will ruin the holidays with your sweetheart unless you allow it. With New Year’s Eve approaching, refuse to let stress get to you…or at least come prepared if it does.
Dr. Anna Michelle is the internationally known Break Up Solution Specialist. She is your LIFELINE to help you heal and recover from the pain of lost love. Anna went from feeling broken and unlovable to healing herself AND transforming her life from the inside out. Dr. Anna Michelle has a special skill set based on therapy that targets the subconscious mind. She invented her own signature method called the Break Up Solution System, to permanently shift the emotional pain in your heart for good! You can learn more about Dr. Anna Michelle by visiting her Website: www.breakupsolution.com