Dating With Dignity

By: Christian Anderson

Pop Quiz: You just returned home from an awesome date with a new guy. You ended the date with a nice hug goodbye (always better because it keeps him wanting more, and keeps you looking ultra classy), and are feeling really excited. Which of the following should you NOT do next?

A) call your girl friend to tell her how great the date was.

B) get some good shut eye.

C) have a night cap and take the dog for a nice walk.

D) text the guy and tell him again what an amazing time you had, and how you can’t wait for your next date.

E) ANYTHING BUT D

Yep, it’s D. Somewhere along the way, someone started a rumor that sending out a text once you get home to cap the night with a little love tap is a good idea. I see it all the time. I hear about it all the time. And I’m here to tell you: don’t believe the hype-it’s not the best move. Why?

Because it’s always good to keep him wanting more, and you want that hug goodbye to be the last impression for the night. A little love note via text now moves you from “cool classy girl I just went on a great date with and could not steal a kiss from,” to “Oh, she is totally into this and getting awfully girly awfully quick. Crap, this was going so well. Darn, maybe I should take my time calling her again.”

When in doubt, do LESS. Have a ball on the date, have fun, be yourself, flirt, dance, hike, don’t have sex, and stay in the moment. Don’t start thinking about the future or what this relationship could evolve into, and definitely do not start dropping terms of endearment. It’s the first date!

Want to make sure he doesn’t call? Send the following text after the first date:

“Hey. Had such a gr8 time 2night. U r such a special guy. Can’t wait till next time ”

The above text, my wonderful DD’ers, is the kiss of death after a great date. Keep him guessing. I am not suggesting you play games with him, but since the female heart is able to go down a relationship road faster than a man’s, you’ve got to hold back those feelings and urges for quite some time. The more you hold back, the more he will open up faster. Remember, men are hunters. If you give up the hunt too quickly, then we don’t know what to do, and actually lose interest. You could be the best gal we have gone out with in a really long time, but if we get the feeling that you are ready to roll into a relationship super quickly, or are developing feelings for us after the first couple dates, we immediately run for border and grab a taco supreme.

So if you have a great date, or have been hanging out with a new guy recently, save all those bubbling emotions for talks with your girls and zip those lips. LESS IS MORE. It is just how we men are wired. The more we can hunt, the more we feel like men, and the more we will keep coming back. If we feel like we got the food, then we move on (that food could be your heart or your-well, take a wild guess).

So if you are looking to walk down that road for a substantial relationship, slow it down–emotionally and sexually. If you give up either too quickly, he might prematurely bust out (pun intended). The 21st century man is looking for any way possible to express his manhood. Keep the hunt alive. You got this.