Did you know that the way you walk says lots about your ability to achieve orgasm?
Some sophisticated men may know this and use this information to judge your capacity to perform in bed.
This is unfair but true. The reality of first impressions is…we all make judgments based on little or no information about someone. Our unconscious mind is picking up on subtle cues and giving you feedback.
Studies have shown that men are attracted to 5 specific things when it comes to being with a woman.
1- Looks: This doesn’t mean you have to look like a model but it does mean you need to be aware of how you dress and put yourself together in a way that enhances your assets.
2- Sexual Openness: This doesn’t mean you need to be a porn star. It means you need to exude feminine essence and sensuality.
3- Fun and Adventure: Real life is boring and men want to know that you can be playful and spontaneous.
4- Nurturance: Men need to know that you care. They can feel your heart.
5- Youthfulness: A woman that is passionate about life and allows herself to be silly and at times mischievous.
Of all 5 personality traits, the 3 most important are sexy, playful and caring. If one of these 3 is missing then you’re NOT magnetic. You don’t want to only be his sex toy, you don’t want to only be his friend, and you don’t want to only be his mom…get it ladies? You need a combination of all 3 ingredients to be seen as attractive.
I know what it means to be a sexual toy. After my divorce I was an angry woman that was using her sexuality to seduce men and then toss them aside…to give them a taste of their own medicine…or so I thought. I was using my sensuality without my heart…and so I didn’t care about the men I met. This formula was completely wrong and depleted my energy. However, now that I am using sensuality with the right intention….the feeling is PRICELESS!!
So let’s look at the first aspect men are looking for…Sexual Openness. You see, men want to feel like you are a woman of pleasure. You can indulge in the senses in a manner that gets him out of his head and into his body.
This is how men can tell if you are a bad lover.
Mistake #1: Walking Without a Swagger.
When your body is pitched forward with your shoulders leaning forward, you are giving the impression that you are carrying the weight of the world. You engage the wrong muscles and therefore you have no hip action when you walk. In turn this can be interpreted as stiff and boring.
Mistake #2: Never Touching Yourself
A woman that never touches herself tells men that she is uncomfortable with her body. She perhaps has issues with her self-image and therefore can’t be someone that gives pleasure in the bedroom. Men will assume this about you.
Mistake #3: Never Smiling
A smile seems like a simple concept but in the grand scheme of things is huge. A man is always looking for approval from a woman. He wants to know you are interested in him but more importantly that you are a joyful person that leads a happy life. You see, cheerful people are contagious. We all want to be around people that look at the glass as being half full, not half empty. And your smile tells the world which eye glasses you choose to wear on a daily basis.
So ladies, be aware that you cannot NOT communicate. It is in our human nature to make judgments, to pick up on subtle cues and then create an impression. What impression do you want to leave a man with?
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