Shona, I think there is a misconception about “independence”. Independence is genderless. Some people, regardless of whether they are male or female are fiercely independent by nature.
It is harder for an independent person–not just a woman–to make themselves vulnerable to another human being.
Just passing through the site, saw the video…I like the question. Must say some of the answers made me a little uncomfortable. Asking the man to be the expert? Making sure he knows your looking for love?
I think so many women are go-getters, these days. They work hard in school, they go for the job, they bring in the money – yes, they don’t need a man. The sad thing about that is that getting the education, getting the job, bringing in the money…those things become THE POINT to these “independent women”. They define themselves by their achievements. Which is a little narrow, in my mind. You’re also defined (among so many other things) by what you find interesting, even if you don’t know anything about it. And that’s where the man comes in (or friend). Because the person sitting in front of you has had different experiences from yours, and knows about different things.
Being curious about someone, what they’ve done, seen, how they feel about issues, or just in general – being curious shows your not obsessed with yourself. It’s important to be interested in the person in front of you. If you’re not, it makes you look self-centered – and if you look that way, you probably are.
Just a few thoughts..