The Man Panel event, “How to Increase Your Attraction Factor” was a huge success, and I have received several emails and phone calls from those who attended. One of the biggest take-aways reported was new levels of understanding that what we “think” is what we “broadcast.” In short, the messages that your “inner critic” voice bombards you with (e.g., I’m too fat, too skinny, too old, not deserving, my fault etc..) when you look into the mirror are the very signals you are sending out to the world, including anyone might be a potential partner.
The question then becomes, how do you shift the messages away from those thought patterns sometimes referred to as “Repetitive Mental Noise (RMN)” The truth is you can’t simply “think” your way to a quiet mind and increased self love. In fact, reducing RMN requires a solid 3-Prong Approach:
1. Change Your Thoughts: Reducing the mental clutter caused by your “inner critic” can sometimes be changed by simply shifting thoughts. Raising your Energy to Level 3, which requires taking RESPONSIBILITY for your thoughts, invites you to use your intellect and intuition to rationalize, intellectualize and cope with a situation. You can understand the “why” or “what,” of the circumstances and then shift your thoughts away from victim thinking or conflictual thoughts that can include defiance, anger, frustration, jealousy or resentment.
2. Change Your Feelings: Look within to determine if your feelings are coming from the place of an emotional, mature adult, or triggered by some unresolved feelings from your past. For example, if your father died or left you at an early age, perhaps you are triggered when men become disinterested in dating you. Instead of being able to de-personalize the situation, you might react based on childhood feelings of abandonment. Instead, understand your feelings and create awareness of how these feelings fit into your life today. Tap into your authentic self, your power and begin to see the TRUTH of situations.
3. Change your actions: Today, two of my clients were able to see how moving into action has helped them shift when their thoughts and feelings wouldn’t budge. Simply taking action that was in harmony with the vision they have for their life helped them to create confidence, move away from feelings of self-hatred, “why is this happening to me” thinking, and live from a place of dignity and self-respect.
Thoughts, feelings and actions conspire together, working diligently to create the results you are now experiencing. If you want a new result, began to shift your thoughts, feelings and actions and then watch your life transform before your eyes!
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