Dating With Dignity

Today, we’ve decided to give you a sneak peak into our brand new special report: “The Man Panel: Insider Secrets Revealed” which will be released soon!. This report has answers to some of your MOST difficult dating questions–all straight from our famous MANelists!

The report will answer questions like:

What should I do on the first date, to make sure he calls for a second date?

How do men REALLY feel about a woman approaching them? Is it a definite no, or a turn on?

What can a woman do to get a man she is interested in to approach her?

Post-date communication: Can I call? Should I wait to hear from him? What’s the verdict?

Our man panel has provided brutally honest answers to each of those questions, and many, many more. The excerpt we have chosen to share with you today contains a question we get asked all the time at Dating With Dignity: How can I move a relationship from casual to committed? Read on, to learn what Christian Anderson and Chris Gillis, two Dating With Dignity Man Panel favorites, have to say about the issue…

How does a woman move from casual to committed? How can a woman encourage a man to want to be exclusive and have a committed relationship?

Chris Gillis: If she wants a relationship, then hanging out should not include sex, because the guy is going to be getting everything he wants. There is no reason to change the relationship because it’s the perfect situation for him. It’s important from the door that the woman carefully guides and draws lines and limits. Obviously you don’t have to be exclusive after the first date, but have your goal in mind. The girl can really steer and maneuver and decide the destination of the relationship.

Christian Anderson: If she is looking for a substantial relationship, and that’s what she wants, then she should absolutely not have sex with him. Just don’t do it, and you’ll know if he’s really in it for you. Right off the bat you’ll weed out the dudes who are just there to play, or to have you as “weekend girl” or put you on the roster. It’s the quickest way. If you’re not giving it up and he still comes around, then you know he’s into yo. If you give it up right away, your odds to way down. It’s a crapshoot.

First and foremost, it’s sexual attraction. Then it develops into something more. If you take the sex out of it you get down to the root of what we’re really after. If I’m on a date with a girl, and all I’m thinking is, “I wanna get with this physically,” then I know I’m not really thinking of you. You’re boring. But if I’m thinking that I want to talk to this girl, and hang out with her all night because I haven’t met a girl in so long that I can just chill with AND I’m attracted to you–I’m all in.

Chris Gillis: If you are dating a cute girl, you could still be thinking about how you can get it done, as fast as possible, but as a woman you have to have substance to offer. If within an hour of meeting someone you’re knocking boots, and you do that all the time, you’re not giving that person a chance to get to know you. Therefore the relationship is not going to move forward.

You have to remember: you are sexually training us. If you train us for an hour and we get our doggy treat, we aren’t going to learn any new tricks and we aren’t going to spend time with you, and learn why we would want to be in a relationship with you. If you are an interesting person, give it time for the chemical reaction to take place. We don’t sometimes get it as quickly, it takes us a few dates to understand how awesome a woman is. Give us that time to let us appreciate all that you have to offer.