If Valentine’s Day were a person I would be defending her, taking her to lunch to help “pump” her up, and unabashedly wondering why people are avoiding her at all costs. I mean, geez, she’s just a pink and red Hallmark holiday moment. She doesn’t smell. Dress weird, or have bad breath. It seems the truth is, or at least what seems like the truth based on all the email blasts I have been getting from love coaches, is that if you are single on this holiday then you should accordingly be depressed, sad, hopeless and bitter. You should need to take a class to feel better, be mad that the guy you have been casually dating hasn’t “stepped up” to the plate. If you are in a relationship, you should feel “bad” for putting pressure on your beloved to show up with a bit of romance on Sunday. In fact, one email I received said that she and her partner were “boycotting” Valentine’s Day because they show love towards one another daily. STOP the presses. REALLY, now. Does Valentine’s Day deserve to be trashed?
If you choose to lament, boo-hoo, or go bash red pinanta’s with your girlfriends this weekend because you feel like being single is “bad,” then it’s what you are choosing to feel, think and do. If you are in a relationship, I say, why not make your lover a red cut-out card covered in xoxoxoxs? Tell him or her you want to make February 14 a day to celebrate each other. Yup. It’s that simple. Here’s an option: Have fun! Create the Life You Love! Go see that Valentine’s Day move with your girls, or your boyfriend. Eat popcorn, laugh, pine over Bradley Cooper (he is in this movie, isn’t he? I mean, he’s in every ensemble cast move I have seen in the last 18 months, right?) and celebrate your life — the one you love because you are blessed to wake up, walk, breathe and have food in your refridgerator! Go volunteer with someone. Spend time with your nieces or nephews. Indulge them in one of those giant-sized Hershey Bars. Take them to ice cream. Or even offer to watch movies with them while mom and dad get nutty at the Best Western. Call an old friend. Spend time with your mom, or your dad. Be grateful for their place in your world. The point is this: You don’t have to trash Valentine’s Day. She’s not so bad. She’s just a day that was created to sell cards and RE-MIND the general public to step out of their frenetic, harried lives for just one moment to tell someone — any person for whom you have feelings of love — that you LOVE him or her. That’s it. That’s all. Now, go find someone in your life to say, “I LOVE YOU too, and then remember to be nice to all the holidays. Even Valentine’s Day. It’s not her fault. She was just born that way.