Comments on: When is it too soon to discuss the “r” word — relationship? http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/when-is-it-too-soon-to-discuss-the-r-word-relationshi/ Modern love for modern times Thu, 08 Sep 2011 21:17:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: mike http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/when-is-it-too-soon-to-discuss-the-r-word-relationshi/comment-page-1/#comment-1091 mike Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:44:20 +0000 http://datingwithdignity.com/?p=828#comment-1091 I am direct and honest,if I am interested in a woman,beleive me she will know it and the "R" word will not be a problem whatsoever. I think the problem lies in peoples fear of rejection or not being "Good enough".We have been raised to believe that showing weakness or an unclear understanding of a subject somehow makes us inferior. The only thing I can say to that is, educate yourself,trust your instincts and boldly proceed. Relationships are frought with challenges,to me the least of them being weather someone is going to bolt if you profess your love or caring for.After all it is only being honest and feeling and expressing your desires.If you get an answer that you dont like then perhaps that is not the person for you,case closed,next.And then there too is the case of hanging on way too long in a relationship that is clearly disfunctional.Of course ,to those involved it may not be so clear but,thats where being honest with yourself in all your affairs is beneficial.I too was in a relationship that was disfunctional,I was blinded by the promise of intimacy and caring for another human being on a level reserved for romance novels. (ok ok I know,barf) But, hey at least I know what I want.Relationship is only a word, its meaning , however encompasses a whole lot more then that.But,if you have the right two people involved and ready to be accountable then the sky's the limit.My last relationship was a lesson in what does not work and being in tune with what we both need in order for it to work.I feel that there is someone out there for me.I cant speak for everyone,but I think that perception and attitude are at least half the battle.Keeping it simple is a good way to look at things,not every encounter is the earth shattering connection we hope for ,but it can be if you are prepared to receive it. Happy holidays to all !! TFTS Mike I am direct and honest,if I am interested in a woman,beleive me she will know it and the “R” word will not be a problem whatsoever. I think the problem lies in peoples fear of rejection or not being “Good enough”.We have been raised to believe that showing weakness or an unclear understanding of a subject somehow makes us inferior. The only thing I can say to that is, educate yourself,trust your instincts and boldly proceed. Relationships are frought with challenges,to me the least of them being weather someone is going to bolt if you profess your love or caring for.After all it is only being honest and feeling and expressing your desires.If you get an answer that you dont like then perhaps that is not the person for you,case closed,next.And then there too is the case of hanging on way too long in a relationship that is clearly disfunctional.Of course ,to those involved it may not be so clear but,thats where being honest with yourself in all your affairs is beneficial.I too was in a relationship that was disfunctional,I was blinded by the promise of intimacy and caring for another human being on a level reserved for romance novels. (ok ok I know,barf) But, hey at least I know what I want.Relationship is only a word, its meaning , however encompasses a whole lot more then that.But,if you have the right two people involved and ready to be accountable then the sky’s the limit.My last relationship was a lesson in what does not work and being in tune with what we both need in order for it to work.I feel that there is someone out there for me.I cant speak for everyone,but I think that perception and attitude are at least half the battle.Keeping it simple is a good way to look at things,not every encounter is the earth shattering connection we hope for ,but it can be if you are prepared to receive it.

Happy holidays to all !!

TFTS

Mike

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