Happy Hump Day Daters. Here’s my concern: I have been barraged with information about products, classes and workshops touting opportunities for “holiday tune-ups,” tips to beat the “holiday blues,” and how to de-stress during the holiday season. The very titles of these programs assume that because it is December I, as the recipient of these emails, invitations and messages, have recognized, at long last, that my life sucks. It intimates I am somehow broken, need to be fixed, or must assuredly be stressed when I consider the vast amount of opportunities to celebrate that are prominent during this time of the year.
To this I say, “bah humbug.”
Honestly, must we really consider the entire year a bust if we have thus far not managed to find long-term love? I emphatically say, “No, no and no.” While I did find love in 2009, I spent five years prior celebrating my other accomplishments, lessons learned, new connections, friends, challenges and time spent with family. In addition, I recognized that while I may not have found love, I was able to learn new information about myself, dating, relationships and becoming a better version of me. My message today is short, sweet and to the point my dear friends.
The value of your life is NOT represented by the number of dates you have, the quantity of emails that fill your match.com inbox, nor the prospect of finding “the one” by New Years Eve or even Valentines Day. The value of your life is represented by the people you love voraciously. The friendships you treasure. The people you serve in your business. The smile you share with the Barista that makes his “day at the office,” a little less hectic. The kiss you give your mother, father, child or loved one.
“People learn to become selfish and to close their hearts so tightly. They are starving for love, not knowing that the heart is a magical kitchen. Your heart is a magical kitchen…..open your magical kitchen, and refuse to walk around the world begging for love. In your heart is all the love you need. Your heart can create any amount of love, not just for yourself, but for the whole world; you can be generous with your love because you have a magical kitchen in your heart. Then all those starving people who believe the heart is closed wil always want to be near you for your love.”
This passage say’s it all; That love of self, love of friends, family, and compassion for others is what truly gives us fulfillment, joy and peace. So Dignity Daters, Happy Holidays. You are not broken, do not need repair and are not doomed to stress and overwhelm this December. Instead, enjoy the celebrations. Reframe your point of view. Ignore the doom and gloom. Instead, allow others to be imperfect. Accept yourself. And then, commit to new ways of growth in 2010 so that you can continue to manifest love in the world.
I’m off to prepare for the first coed Mastermind Dating Group that meets tonite! Send us blessings as we begin this adventure together…..