Dating With Dignity

When you have a bad moment, ick day, or you just seem to fall back into a rut, it’s powerful to know that you can make the choice to “coach” yourself back to vibrating at a higher energy level. The result, you are able to manage typical “down” moments when the inner critic in your mind is having a hey day to ultimately take back control of your life. Here’s how:

1.  Identify a specific incident in which you were successful at moving from catabolic, negative energy into an anabolic or higher energy state. Remember a time when you seemed to have “pulled” yourself out of a slump to show up for a friend in need, turn an awkward moment into something memorable, or find the good in a situation that at first seems quite negative.

2.  Think carefully about the situation, and recall how you turned yourself around. In the situation you identified in step 1, determine the defining moment in which you were able to make this shift? Did you remember something you read in a book, make a choice to stop being “Debbie  Downer,” or hear your Aunt Selma’s warm voice in your head telling you, “chin up?” Did you remember something you read on this blog, or heard at a Dating With Dignity workshop.  Think carefully.  Then, use the same technique in the new situation.

3.  Alternatively, think of one positive trait or characteristic a friend would use to describe you. Once you identify the trait, brainstorm possibilities of how this characteristic could best be used to help you shift your energy in the current situation.  Perhaps your friend would say you are intuitive?  Or compassionate?  Maybe you are funny, like me?  Think, then, how could could you best use your intuitive skills, compassion towards others, or humor to raise the energetic frequency at which you are vibrating.

Remember, each moment gives you an opportunity to define who you want to be.  The choice is yours.  Don’t let traffic, the slow cashier at the grocery store, or the holiday frenzy at the mall determine who you attract into your life.  Like attracts like.  Be conscious of your energy, then take action to move yourself into a positive, upbeat mood and choose to live a life of acceptance and peace.

Don’t forget, it’s almost time for Q and A Monday.  Have a question this weekend?  Make sure you send it to datingwithdignity@gmail.com.

And, here’s something exciting to look forward to!  If you or a friend (someone who is single or in a relationship) are interested in having better sex, (who isn’t?!) don’t forget to register now for the FREE Ask the Expert Tele-class with Chrystal from Blissconnection.com.  Even if you can’t make the call on Wednesday, register so we can send you the recording.  Here’s the link: http://www.datingwithdignity.com/dl/askchrystalbougon/