For months I have been discussing an array of tips and techniques to help you begin to transform the way you approach dating and relationships. I know from many of you, this has been challenging, often frustrating, yet immensely fulfilling. One of the most important things to remember on the journey to manifesting true love is that feeling slightly, or even very uncomfortable with new behaviors most likely indicates you are walking on the right path. For someone who is letting go of people who don’t meet their needs, saying “it’s not a match,” to someone who may fill your time, but not your heart’s desire, or sitting with empty space during a Dating Fast, I applaud you! You are brave. You are stretching to new limits, making sacrifices to get what you want, and living in harmony with your vision. Here are a few common feelings, thoughts and actions you might be experiencing as someone who is truly playing the game of life in new exciting ways:
Thoughts: While you are experimenting with new limits, setting expectations and making mistakes on the journey, you may be thinking, “What do I do next?” Perhaps you are having thoughts about how you might sabotage your efforts. Imagining making choices that aren’t in harmony with your vision. Or, perhaps you have feelings of self doubt. Let me give you a reality check; these feelings are totally normal! Remember, making change is challenging and the voice inside your head (the inner critic) will take any opportunity it sees to try to break you down, and return you to your old way of being. Power through! Remember to get centered, stop, think and make the best choice for you.
Feelings: While walking down this new, unpaved road in unchartered territory, you may become frustrated and fearful when you don’t experience immediate success. Perhaps you are fearing that you will ultimately fail. Maybe, you feel like your life is a roller coaster as you celebrate the “wins,” but become sad when you feel you experience a “loss.” Nevertheless, you ultimately are enjoying more periods of peace in your life. Your confidence is growing as you taste the sweet results of beginning to fall in love with yourself and the life you are beginning to create.
Actions: If you have set an intention to reach your relationship goals, and are continuing to work on creating a specific vision for your life, you will begin to experience new levels of clarity. With each new action comes increased awareness. You may be experiencing new “ah-ha” moments, epiphanies, and improved connections with people in your life. Each action results in movement, progress and increased self esteem. When you take an action that is “old,” it feels odd. You begin to see how this no longer fits your “new” self. Mistakes are made, of course, yet they no longer bog you down.
I invite you to continue your journey with me as I improve this website, create new workshops, tele-classes and products to help you manifest love, intimacy and partnership. I am here to support you. Reach out, ask for help, and know that you have a partner in me as you design and create the biggest love of your life; your love of self and another.
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