Dating With Dignity Advice Monthly Archive

One of the most popular questions I received is based on a fundamental Dating With Dignity principle; a date is an opportunity to make a human one-to-one connection with another person — it is not an INTERVIEW! Quite a relief, isn’t it? So then, how can you make a shift in your thinking so that you approach a first or second date with the following objectives:

I woke up this morning totally missing my mom, who died 14 months ago after a heroic battle with lung cancer. I had a dream last night in which she turned up, “not dead,” and we were driving around Arizona (the place my parents lived for the past 15 years) looking for a place to stay. In the dream I kept suggesting to go to her friends’ homes, but she insisted they had adjusted to her being gone so we should not “freak them out” by turning up. Weird, right? Thing is, I miss my mom. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But the truth is that today while I was baking yams I wished I had spent more time cooking with her, instead of going for the long run, reading in my bedroom, or watching football with the gang.

I was emptying the magazine rack the other day and ran across an issue of Men’s Health I had lifted from the condo we stayed in during our vacation to Whistler last summer. In the July/August, 2009 issue of Men’s Health, actor Josh Duhamel gave an interview in which he talks about his marriage to […]

I am a big fan of the short and sweet phone call. Memories of hiding in the closet twirling the yellow phone cord haunt us all… That said, let’s review how the short goal-oriented phone call goes: Man calls woman. They speak for 5-10 minutes on the phone in which he ends the conversation by asking her to meet him (known to most of you as asking her to go on “a date.”) I invite you to keep these conversations short because spending one hour on the phone with someone you don’t know very well gives you an opportunity to send an inaccurate message about who you are.

the question this week revolves around skills to help you brave the unknown resultant feelings of ick that come from saying “good-bye.” First off, it’s important to know that it is, in fact, difficult to say “no,” to someone. Old patterns of creating drama to make it “easy,” must be avoided at all costs. He or she does not have to be a “jerk,” to warrant ending a relationship. Most important, once you determine if this person will not meet your long-term relationship goals, it is time to say good bye. Here are a few tips to get you through this difficult period.

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It’s almost 2010, and there is no better time than now to  bust free of the patterns and behaviors that are keeping you stuck in the romantic rut you have possibly been experiencing for years.  While it’s no easy feat, the first step is to identify what, in fact are those behaviors that leave you […]

For months I have been discussing an array of tips and techniques to help you begin to transform the way you approach dating and relationships.  I know from many of you, this has been challenging, often frustrating, yet immensely fulfilling.  One of the most important things to remember on the journey to manifesting true love […]

It’s time to answer a question I receive frequently regarding online dating!  One DWD fan, in particular wrote to ask if  it is appropriate for a woman to pursue a man online.  She also asks how long should she communicate via email exclusively? Well folks, here’s the dealio: 1.  Both men and women can initiate […]