Is Your Man Pulling Away?

Is Your Man Pulling Away

The Problem:
Do you often feel like men pull away, just when things are beginning to get good. Unfortunately, the common reaction to this pull is for women to push. Hard. They feel as if they must try every new thing they can to draw their man back into the relationship.

A Solution:
By developing a greater understanding of the neurochemistry that influences men to stay committed and engaged in your relationship you can stop struggling to keep your man interested. Here’s how:

1. Realize that most men are motivated, excited and happy when their dopamine levels are high. Among other things, low dopamine levels can cause depression, poor attention and focus, and loss of satisfaction. When men do not engage in activities that raise dopamine levels, they are less interested in you, the relationship, or meeting your needs. Once you notices these signs (the pull), you can take specific action to help your man to raise his dopamine levels.

2. Understand what causes dopamine to fall. Dopamine levels can fall due to poor nutrition and sleep, caffeine and alcohol. Unnaturally high levels of stress can also reduce the amount of dopamine in men’s body. Consider if one of these conditions are prominent in your man’s life recently.

3. Help your man raise his dopamine levels. Certain foods such as almonds, dairy products, bananas, and certain seeds such as sesame and pumpkin can help your guy raise his dopamine levels. In addition, encourage him to engage in competitive, adventurous action-oriented activities to raise his dopamine levels. Tell him to spend time with friends. Play Xbox. Watch sports. Or to go surfing, running or play basketball. In short, provide your man with opportunities to spend time in his “man cave” to move back to hormonal equilibrium. Once you encourage your man to take time for himself, he will be more motivated to provide you with what you need.

Once you understand that neurochemistry can impact mood swings and each partner’s willingness to have healthy, optimistic and cooperative feelings, you can stop “pushing” to ensure that your partner maintains an effective equilibrium.