I am always bombarded with questions regarding where to meet Mr. or Miss Right. “Where do I go to meet someone who is real, authentic, and fun?” As this is an important question, lets first dig into what exactly you are looking for in Mr. or Miss Right.
Part of dating with dignity involves the creation of an intentional dating plan. In this plan you must identify what characteristics and values you want your potential partner to possess. Choose no more than five values/characteristics that are non-negotiable, and then when engaging in your search, make sure that the places and activities in which you search reflect those values. For example, if you are interested in meeting someone who values spirituality, create opportunities to meet a spiritual person in a place that embodies this value such as a church, Agape meeting, or workshop held by someone who speaks on topics related to spirituality. What follows, then, are four additional guidelines to use in manifesting your relationship vision.Read more »
Who hasn’t uttered those two words when confronted with the realization that the perfect man you’ve been dating, with whom you share an intense connection, may not be showing up.
Of course, he’s there. He’s texting, calling you baby, sleeping with you, and maybe even cooking you dinner. You fall asleep in each other’s arms, and you blissfully leave the next morning, more confident than ever in the direction your relationship is heading.Read more »
As I have navigated the twisted pathways of this five-year journey from divorce to dating, and then to finding and experiencing love, I mostly enjoy the journey. Not that it hasn’t occasionally been fraught with periods of sadness, loneliness and the overwhelming fears that I was odd; that I was a person whose cloth wasn’t cut to be in a relationship. Nevertheless, I stayed in the process, relying on my deepest belief that because I had learned to love myself, create a life I loved, and had practiced living with peace, presence and dignity, that love would ultimately come into my life.Read more »
Be a man who stands apart from the crowd and the women you date will be swooning! Dating coach, Marni Battista, and Dignity Dating Man Panelist, Christian Anderson, give you specific strategies and how-to advice to help you impress your next date.Read more »
Once again, I was able to reconfirm the number one thing men are CRAVING for when it comes to relationship — a woman who is confident, secure and feminine. They are, in fact, clear on one thing; a woman who, despite her beauty, good humor, kindness and tight butt, needs excessive reassurance is someone who quickly becomes an albatross.Read more »
First off, most men and women will say that they want a partner who is honest. In fact, when my clients are creating lists of values they hold as important for themselves and others, honesty ranks in the top five of “must-have’s.” In digging deeper, we typically discuss what honesty looks like to them. Yes, while it seems obvious that honesty is not up for discussion or debate, there are certain situations we discuss in which it might not be necessary or appropriate to tell the absolute truth. How many lovers have you had in the past? When it comes to kiss and tell, discussing your past is not necessary.Read more »
I finally watched an episode of “Cougar Town” last night. Courtney Cox looked, “good for 40 plus,” though oddly plasticized. I must admit I felt quite relieved when my boyfriend, Jem, voiced his disgust at her botox and collagen, telling me he will love me the same when there are less people in the world who tell me I also “look good for 40 plus.” Which thus brings me to a conversation I had with my friend while walking Monday in which we discussed the issue of age, being a cougar, and why it’s OK to be a cougar unless addressed as “cougar” by someone in his twenties! Here’s my point: Age doesn’t matter, unless it does.Read more »
I have a client, let’s call her Jane, who met a man online a few weeks ago. He had been out of the country since they first “met” online so she had been communicating with him via text and email. During the course of these emails she began to connect with him (let’s call him Brad) because they share similar interests and appear to have the same values. As can be expected, Jane began to really “fall” for Brad, and I thus encouraged her to pull back and wait until he returned to Los Angeles to continue communicating with Brad at length. She didn’t want to engage in a pattern she has which is to begin to see a man as “the one,” before he has even come close to being a candidate for that title.Read more »